Moving To Mexico
A Tale from the Reluctant Adventurer™
When my husband and I moved to Mexico seven years ago, it was a transition full of chaos for me. Even though we had actively visualized living near a beautiful ocean, when we actually created the life we envisioned – it came as quite a shock to my system!
My former life was filled with friends, yoga, writing, gardening, choreography, and the arts. My new life was challenging. Yes, there was the ocean, this cool international beach town Playa del Carmen, and the opportunity to continue to teach yoga, (this time with a sea view!). But in the beginning, we didn’t know Spanish, weren’t familiar with the customs, and had no cable, internet, nor car.
Thank God for Bobbie Martin, the guest author for my first issue of Catch the Wave Newsletter. I knew Bobbie as a counselor/adviser in Kansas City before moving to Playa del Carmen. Her steady guidance helped me to step through my fear and into enriching new life con gusto!
Bobbie does private and group sessions in Kansas City, Missouri and phone sessions from anywhere around the world. Contact her via her web site: www.bobbiemartin.com
The Gift of Chaos
by Bobbie Martin
Many of us think of chaos as a catastrophe or at the very best, something to be fixed. We ask for new things, relationships and opportunities in our lives and then are surprised when everything seems to unravel in disarray and bedlam. As a counselor, I’ve seen that when that happens, it’s a sure sign that what you want is close at hand. Like the Hindu God Shiva, the destroyer and creator of life, the gift emerges after structures have been dissolved, and room is made for the new to emerge.
When we say “I wish our relationship had more spark,” or “My job doesn’t challenge me anymore, I need something that lights my creativity,” we instinctively know that we are ready for the next stage of growth. When the Universe, (which is constantly listening and responding), starts to rearrange the molecules of “what is” to give us what we want, we get frightened. We say, “Oh no, that’s way too scary and uncomfortable,” and we put the brakes on, impeding our own evolution.
Our fear causes us to try to hold onto our present reality and accept things that are no longer satisfying because we’re afraid of the new. We end up stuck in a limbo of chaos – wanting to release the old but afraid to do so, ending up staying in the discomfort even longer than was needed.
The book Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach is a classic example of embracing and struggling with chaos induced by desire.
Jonathan is a seagull who starts dreaming of flying higher than he had ever gone before or had ever seen any other seagull go. When he shared his desire with his friends, they said, “That’s dangerous…you can’t do that.”
He listened for a while and yet could not resist the temptation, fueled by his desire, to go beyond where he was accustomed to flying. He made the attempt, ascended higher, and then hit an unexpected down draft of air and plunged lower than he had ever been.
When he recovered, he was shaken and all of his friends commented on how lucky he was to still be alive. He agreed and thought, “I will never do that again.” However, he found himself looking up and wondered if he handled it differently, could he try flying higher once more?
Eventually he did fly higher and discovered that he could stay longer because he was more prepared. When he hit something that altered his course, he recovered faster and eventually had the joy of flying at a whole new altitude. Eventually all of his friends found their way there too, because of his example.
Anytime we ask for change we have a choice as to how we respond to the chaos that ensues. We can either hold onto what feels safe and predictable, get tumbled around in the chaos more, and eventually give up on the excitement of our lives. Or, we can take a quantum leap off the ledge and fly into our future towards the changes that we want.
So the next time chaos presents itself, pause and give thanks because the gift you have been asking for is just around the corner.
Web Site: www.bobbiemartin.com
February 6th, 2009 at 10:10
What a great reminder! I’m going to print this out as well. Thanks so much for sharing!
April 2nd, 2009 at 19:22
Any upcoming retreats on Isla Mujeres? Thanks, Sharon
February 3rd, 2010 at 2:05
My husband and I visited the Alhambra hotel on 12/19th as we were staying in nearby Riviera Maya. We ate at the restaurant outdoors on the sand & it was very good & we watched the scuba divers launching their boats to take tours out to the sea. Just beautiful! I had previously seen your website and purposely went to Playa Del Carmen to see the hotel & yoga studio. The wonderful owners/managers of the hotel upon hearing this personally showed us the rooms, the yoga studio and we were allowed to go to the top deck of the hotel where my husband snapped some pictures of me as I spontateously did Warrior II and Tree pose! Oh, the lovely backdrop of turqoise sea! I definitely want to go back & do yoga with you but life here at home has its own responsibilities and so, for now, I must wait until later – perhaps summer or fall to visit again. Ariel, please add more to your blogs on a more frequent basis, if you can – particularly while you are teaching your new class. For those of us here in the “working world” it would be such a pleasure to read of the adventures others are taking and by reading youg blog I can live a bit of it vicariously through what you write. Thank you for what you do. Namaste and I hope to meet you some day on a yoga journey.